Day 07 → Someone who has made your life worth living for.
This post will be much less about romance and much more about just having a good person in your life who loves you unconditionally and believes in you fully. I am clearly going to say it is my guy. The love is obvious. No one can or has ever loved me more than my guy. But there is so much more there that has made my life worth living.
And I would never diminish myself fully by saying I would be nothing with out him. That is just not who I am. I have worked hard for every single thing I have and earned what is mine. That is what it is about us that makes this thing work. He doesn’t change me from who I am. In fact, he pushes me to be myself more even if sometimes it makes things harder for him.
I am an independent woman. I didn’t get there over night. I was raised by an independent woman. My mom worked hard and worked even harder proving to the world she could attain independence on her own. My father married a woman who exudes independence. Both choosing not to need men in their lives to survive but to have men in their lives because they wanted them there. That isn’t always popular in our society. This attitude extended beyond relationships though, it was in everything they did.
When I met my guy I was actually figuring this all out. Any threat to my independence even still to this day is met with confrontation. No it doesn’t make life easy and I will never be that wife that sits down and lets her guy dictate her future or her life. And maybe if I was life would be easier, but I also believe if I was I would be stuck. I don’t like feeling stuck. In fact, in my mind if a person makes you feel stuck then that is a good time to jump ship.
Thankfully, my guy loves my independence. It isn’t that I disrespect his hopes and dreams for me, it is that he respects my hopes and dreams for myself and doesn’t get in the way of that. When I met him I was working in a flower shop. I kind of thought I would work there for the rest of my life. Well into our relationship, I mentioned I wanted more. He asked me, “Why don’t you go for more?” He didn’t worry about how it would affect our finances or our home.
Two weeks later I resigned to work for Delta Faucet. While in my 5 years there I accepted 4 promotions because he encouraged me to try for better. When I slapped on him the night before I was to return to work after maternity leave for #1 that I wanted to be a stay at home mom and go to school. He didn’t freak. He didn’t discourage me. He never even was concerned about how it would work financially, time wise or it would affect our time together or my time with #1. He said, “When we wake up we will tackle both.” When I shared with him I never believed I could be successful at college because it just wasn’t in my blood. He thought I was full of it. And had the application in my hand the next day with the application fee already written.
Each time I wavered during school what it was I was meant to do he was always there to remind me and put up with the stresses of me being a student, mom and wife. When I told him I applied for my new job he didn’t even bat an eye knowing I lacked that one more year I needed to even contemplate such an career move. He said, “You will get it and we will make it work.”
And quite the obvious thing he has given me that has made my life worth living for is my girls. Each and every single one of them. And he has always supported myself and them when I am trying to raise them to be independent women who go and do the things in the world that they want, not what society, a man or woman, or fill in the blank tell them to do.
He has given me the support needed to live out each and every dream I have ever even uttered to speak. And while that is romantic and all I am talking about the more practical side to it. Being married to and in love with an independent woman is not always easy. I know that. There is an upside to it though. I love him ten fold for letting me be me and I extend the same courtesies to him. Because those parts of him are the very parts that I love about him.
His coaching takes up humongous amounts of time but without it he would not be who he is. A golf coach. His umpiring/officiating of baseball, softball, football, basketball (fill in the blank) take time away from our family. But without it we would not add to our income, so I could go to school and be home with our girls. His dreams, I always encourage just the way he has mine. There are so many more to add to this list but it digresses away from the goal of such a post. It just is always amazing to see what unconditional love and support does for a person. They soar.
More than anything we have learned over and over together that good things do not come easy. They take hard work, hard love, hard times and an appreciation for life and one another. If anything we have learned to not to settle for less than what we want together and that has made life worth
It may not be happening daily, but it will happen 30 times….My 30 Days of Truth