The further you have to fall, right? And while that is true 100% there is another side to that that I want to talk about today. Saturday’s are usually my day for sharing and I will but it will be on Sunday.
Since signing up for the educational leadership program I am in, I have found a new phenomena. Doubters…I mean we all have doubters, right? Since I have been working on my health and fitness people always want to know “my secret” and what I do. I tell them and they have the reasons why they cannot do it and why it won’t work for them. Or the best response, “see me when it doesn’t work for you, or you fall, or you gain it all back”. I think the part that bugs me most about that is not that they are naysaying. But the fact that they doubt themselves or doubt me. For real, and we wonder why we have some of the problems in the world we do. Y’all others successes have nothing to do with you. They just don’t. It is also not your job to remind them, tell how they will fail.
But if you remember from my post “I don’t want to be your inspiration” I talked a lot about it being your own journey and no one but you can figure out that journey.
However, the educational leadership program is also very similar. I am shocked that when I share it with others the immediate response I inevitably get is a negative one. I knew it would happen honestly. To the tune, that I didn’t tell anyone for a year that I was endeavoring on this journey. I also did a gradual release (lol!).
But now pretty much everyone knows and quite a few have one of two missions. They need to talk me out of it and wonder why I want to do it. Or they doubt me. The first one, okay…fine that is your opinion. But that second one? Really? That is how you are going to respond to someone?
I. WOULD. NEVER. You do not have that right ever, ever, ever, to tell someone their path in life cannot be reached. I don’t give a flip who you are. That is the biggest struggle I have with education in general is that as educators sometimes the assumed right is that we do have that ability. We do not.
I cannot tell you how many times I have heard the horror story of a teacher telling a student that they will never be a “doctor” or “engineer” or whatever. Or worse have laughed at them? Can you be real and say, “You are going to have to work hard” or offer suggestions for other what you believe to be more realistic paths. But to outright voice your doubt!
STOP IT! For real…and that honestly applies to all of life.
I remember wanting to be a college instructor and a professor told me, “That will never happen because you have kids and are married.” You better believe the moment I could prove that prof wrong I did and made a point to make sure they knew they were wrong.
I know my tiny little post is not going to change any of this! But what my post does do is stand out to those who maybe reading and thinking it. Thank you for the doubt. So we can know moving forward…those people and yes there are more than a handful who have doubted me or told me this was not a smart professional move. Just know you are my motivation. I literally want to prove you wrong, so that you can see me stand there graduating from that program and I assure you it will happen.
What will also happen is I will get the job when I am ready and it is the one I want.